Who Do You Exercise For? Your Self or ‘Your Man’
- By Joey Atlas, M.S. Exercise Physiology
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We get tons of email every day from around the world. Questions and comments in all areas of female fitness and nutrition. But there is one type of question we get that needs to be addressed in a big way.
It generally sounds like this:
“Joey – can you please tell me exactly how to make my thighs tight and shapely. My man (boyfriend, husband, fiance, whatever..) loves women with sexy thighs and mine are just not in that category… He’s always making comments about how I should try to make my thighs and butt nicer – like the ones we see on tv, etc…
“Joey – I just want to make him happy – so I’m all that he desires. Please help me get my thighs and butt into the best possible shape so my man can love me…”
First – If your motivation for improving the physical aspect of your fitness is fueled by wanting to be more desirable to ‘your man’ – forget about it, sweetheart – go find another man, a real man who is more interested in what’s below the surface of a woman’s skin…
Second – and more importantly, open your eyes (and mind) to the fact that you should want to be fit, strong, sexy and healthy for YOU, as in your SELF. (Tell the shallow jack-ass to go find his ‘happiness’ elsewhere – or maybe just to expand his horizons a little bit.)
Let me make this clear – when I say ‘sexy’ – I don’t mean looking like the images that the media wants us to think is the perfect image of sexy. There are many different versions of ‘sexy’ – and you have your own unique version that nobody else has. Yeah, there may be other women with similar body types, etc – but they are not you and you are not them.
Understand where I’m coming from? ;-))
Take the gift of life you’ve been given – and make it as good as you possibly can – with proven and realistic exercise techniques and proper, well-balanced nutrition.
Here’s a little gift to help with the balanced nutrition part – it’s a PDF you can download and print and post in your kitchen, office or wherever you wish:
8 Healthy Snacks for a Fit and Firm Body < = Click Here
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Your trainer,
Joey,
I started the program yesterday and am very excited about it! It
reminds me of the exercises I used to do way back when!!! I’ve been going to
the gym for about 18 months and feel like I put a lot of time and effort
into it and haven’t realized the results I was seeking. I am quite strong in
the lower body but not as lean or sculpted as I want to be. I was actually
a bit sore after doing only the LBHTM once! This is confirmation that I was
NOT reaching all the lower body muscles you speak of, with machines and weights.THANK YOU!
Anna Braheem
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Hi Joey,
I am doing the Lower Body workouts. I just started my third week. I can really
feel the exercises working where I need them to. I am following the
progression plans and hope to see even more results soon. I can feel the
muscles in my legs getting firmer each time I do the workouts so I
know they are working. These exercises are great! I am feeling ‘worked’
in areas I have never felt before. Thank you for putting this program
together and helping so many women feel better about ourselves again.Monica Guidry
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Pam and Joey,
The ULBHTM exercises are wonderful. I have been doing gym lessons regularly since 38 years and those exercises Joey has put together are the “classic” exercises which once upon a time were taught in “normal” exercise classes of 30 min or even an hour. But over the years those classes thought they need to be more “fancy” and so they have taken them off the lessons replacing them with more “breathtaking” one. Joey did a good job of realizing that those are the ones which make THE difference in the ‘trouble spot’ parts of the body. I have been doing regularly, for several weeks now, starting with 4-5 exercises which I picked up from his newsletters, and feel REALLY good about it. But now with the manual on hand, I can follow the complete sequences Joey has put together …
Again thanks, and greetings from Rome.
Elke Eggert

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Joey,
This is the best article yet. It made me smile. From woman everywhere let me just thank you for being man with good values. It seems to me that to many women fall for jerks as described in the article.
I have one question, I have a hard time keeping my legs together(thighs hips to knees) my thighs hurt when I try they want to bow out any suggestinos. Thanks Karen, Illinois
hi joey,
thank you for all the insight you provide. it has been really helpful. i am wondering if tightening buttocks make them firmer?
thanks
victoria
joey
i should really thank you for suggesting such a wonderful exercise for firming and toning the lower body.. i have been doing th exercises suggested by you from last month.. i could not believe this.. my lower body muscles are getting better..but i just wanted to ask you how these exercises would help in building the lower body muscles..
thank you for the wonderful job by you ..
WOW! I hope she really takes a deep breath and a long look at your answer. I used to be her, and ended up a very lost woman. Joey, you are an inspiration, and it is refreshing to hear a man speak the truth! I am blessed to be married now, to a man that agrees with you. Hang on ladies, live the best life you can for yourself and the life you were brought here to live. If you concentrate on being the best you ,that you can be, all the rest of your life and the people that are supposed to be in it will show up! Thanks Joey, for being you.
Hi Joey,
First of all i want to thank you joey for always replying my emails. I know you are a busy man yet you always reply back. It’s sad that majority of us ladies do things because of our men instead of doing things for ‘us’. I think we should love ourselves first and accept the way we are and we should never take any kind of bullshit from anyone who doesn’t appreciate the way we are. Thank you Joey for giving her good advice.
All the best.
Liz
Hi Joey,
I really really liked it when you said that “you should want to be fit, strong, sexy and healthy for YOU, as in your SELF.
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This was just excellent!!!!
Hi Joey!my bf always say im fat!he’s a body builder and he got a nice body.always i feel sad whenever he try to emphasize that.reading ur articles makes me feel confident that still i can do something to improve my body.now im working to have a credit card to avail ur emanual but as of now,can u please provide me which food I had to take.ur response will highly be appreciated.
hey Joey,
I exercise for both …….. myself
,to feel and look good…….. and my husband……… he loves a sexy body.
I enjoy all the mail I get for you.They are very informative and interesting.
Thanks again
sharie7
hi joey,i exercise for myself so i can feel good about my self.
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Joey,
I’m very interested in buying your Ultimate leg, butt, hip and thigh makeover, but I’m worried that I won’t be able to follow the instructions without seeing it done. If you or some women who have used the program could help me out that’d be great!
Thanks, Taylor
Joey, Thank you for your emails. They truly inspire me. I have started with the excercises, 10 days today to be precise. My neighbor has noticed the difference. She asked me last night if i was wearing a corset. I had to show off and pulled up my sweater. She was amazed. She said whatever i was doing, i shouldn’t stop. I am proud of you Joey. Thank you once more. Mabatho, Johannesburg – S.A.
Way to go Joey! You must first be happy with yourself before you can make anyone else happy.Once you figure that part out then,you can you can be concerned with appealing yourself to the opposite sex.Self 1st. with
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