- by Joey Atlas, Author of Amazon Bestseller – ‘Fatness to Fitness’
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Tone Thighs, Leg Slimming, Thinner Thigh, Leg Toning – An Exercise in Communication?

One of the biggest challenges (I used to have) in working with women was understanding what they meant by the words they were using to describe their lower body problem areas and WHAT improvements or changes they wanted to make.

Let me explain…

Every day various women come to this site just to stare at my handsome picture and fantasize about me coming to life and stepping out of the computer screen… – Ok, Ok my sense of humor started to take over there for a few seconds – back to the article…

Every day women come to this site because of certain words, feelings and thoughts that are going on in their minds.

Thoughts such as…

I want to tone up my legs…
I need to slim down these fat thighs…
I have to lift this saggy butt…
I would love to firm up my glutes
My legs need some toning…
I want tighter, smaller buns
My thighs should be thinner…
I want curvy hips…
I want my slim hips back…

Now here’s were it gets interesting – and maybe even confusing…

Just because the words being used are different doesn’t necessarily mean that the goals are any different (they may be exactly the same!) – AND, conversely, just because 2 women may use the same exact words to describe their specific lower body goals – doesn’t mean that they are interested in the same end result. Read that one more time… go ahead, I’ll wait for you…

Here’s an example of what I mean. Take a look at this photo:

toned thighs slim legs firm butt
Toned Thighs or Slim Legs?

The legs, butt, hips and thighs of the woman on the left are bigger, curvier and more ‘sculpted’ than the slimmer, less toned, thinner, and more slender lower body of the woman on the right.

Now – let’s stop for a second – and realize that I just used words that “I” would use to describe what I see in the photo. And – it is quite likely that you or another woman reading this would disagree with my choice of words and would want to use different words to describe the different lower bodies.

Doesn’t mean either of us are right or wrong – it’s simply a matter of communication (whihc can sometimes be tricky… ;-))

So, we take this one step further.

For example sake – let’s say I have two women sitting in front of me – one is clearly overweight and in need of fat loss – and the other is NOT overweight but sort of soft, shapeless and un-toned…

Both may use words such as…

“I want to tone and shape my whole lower body…”

– and NEITHER would be wrong. On the other hand he overweight woman may say…

“I want to slim down my thighs and firm up my legs…”

and the other woman might say…

“I want to reduce the flab on my legs, hips and butt – and I want to sculpt them as well – along with my thighs…”

The point I’m trying to make here is this:

Your past experiences, conversations, inferences and perceptions have shaped how you define, describe and verbalize what you see and more importantly what you want. And just because you might use different words than someone else doesn’t mean you are wrong – you are simply communicating as best you can – which is all that anyone can do.

It’s up to the person or people you are communicating with, to be open enough to realize this universal element of our existence and be insightful enough to understand where you are coming from and what you mean, and to be sure that you are clear on where they are coming from and what they mean.

This is one of the main reasons why the ‘Home’ page of this site is so long – I try to use all the variations of womens problem areas that I know of – as well as using variations of how you and other women may describe their trouble spots and more importantly, the improvements they want in their leg, butt, hip and thigh areas.

I almost started talking about body image or ‘self image’ – because that is also a factor – but I will address that in a future article – as there is much to be shared on that topic…

This article is meant to start a discussion – that I would like your feedback and comments on.

How do you describe your lower body problems?

What improvements do you want to make?

Remember – there is no right or wrong…

Just click on the oval ‘Comment’ button just below here, over to the right a little…

Your Trainer,

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